Bad Reputations at Work

Bad Reputations at WorkBad Reputations at WorkAs hard as it may be to practice what I preach, Im a firm believer that we shouldnt care what others think about us. After all, its bedrngnis great for our self-esteem to constantly be worried about how people will perceive us. But, while I will stand behind this in fruchtwein situations, the fact of the matter is there is at least one instance in which what others think about you is extremely important- work. As Selena Rezvani- speaker, leadership consultant, and author of The New Generation of Women Leaders What You Need to Lead but Wont Learn in Business School and Pushback How Smart Women Ask- and Stand Up- for What They Want- says, The fruchtwein important career capital you have isnt your technical skills or academic pedigree. Its notlage your high-flying title. Its not even your relationships Its your reputation. So, in an effort to make you more likable at work, here are eight reputations youll really want to avoid earning. 1. The Late ArriverIts really annoying if youre perpetually late to meetings, even if its only by a few minutes. Youre not the only one whos busy, and consistently showing up tardy to the party is really disrespectful.So, plan accordingly and get there on time. Most likely, part of this planning includes determining why youre always running late. Perhaps you need to platzdeckchen your alarm for a different time or make your coffee at home instead of waiting in line at Starbucks. Whatever it is, figure it out and make the appropriate changes in order to be on time (or, better yet, early).2. The SnitchI was a fairly superior tattletale in my preschool days. And my teacher never failed to say, Did this person hurt you? Did this person hurt someone else? And if the answer to both was no, she would say Then why are you telling me this? Because I want to get this person in trouble, gosh darn it (Preschool was pretty cutthroat in the early 90s.)Basically, unless what someone else is doing is det rimentally affecting you or your team, you dont need to tell your manager. Its really none of your business. So, before you departure blabbing, answer the following Why am I telling this person this? If the only reason you can think of is just because or, worse, solely to make your colleague look bad, keep your mouth shut. Its not your place and, ultimately, it reflects badly on you. 3. The DrunkSo, you go out for an innocent happy hour drink with some colleagues and all of a sudden youre three sheets to the wind. (Hey, when drinks are $3 off from 3 PM to 5 PM, its natural to want to take advantage of that- I get it). But, that one drink too many causes you to badmouth your co-workers, stumble all over the place, share way too many personal details (you did what at your New Years party? Gross), and so forth. Just like that, no one at the office takes you seriously anymore. And the happy hour invites stop coming in, too. Heres the thing You can go get a beer with your team and not en d up embarrassing yourself. unterstellung two things arent mutually exclusive. Limit yourself to one or two drinks, and in addition, double fist it. Nope, not with two alcoholic beverages- beer in one hand, water in the other.Furthermore, you dont have to drink. Its perfectly acceptable to just grab some H20 or other booze-free drink instead. Remember Office happy hours arent really about the drinks- theyre much more about getting to know each other.4. The Drama Queen (or King)Have you ever had a co-worker who makes a big deal out of nothing? All the time? He runs around like a chicken with his head cut off, and when you ask him what the problem is, its quite anticlimactic (because after the huge fuss he made, you thought the entire world was burning). Yep. Thats a drama queen. Mistakes happen. People mess up. But not each one of these situations needs to be much ado about nothin. Before you stage a major freak out, take a step back from the problem at hand and assess it objectively . If youre having trouble doing that on your own, its OK to (calmly) chat about the situation with a colleague, or even your boss. Most things really arent as bad as you think they are, so dont pull the fire alarm all the time.5. The Lazy OneListen, there are always going to be tasks we dont want to do. Thats not just the nature of every job, but its the nature of life, too. But doing a shoddy job because youre too lazy hurts your team and you. Think about it If youre not putting in 100%, youre also not taking advantage of the opportunity to learn new things and build upon current skill sets. And, youre making your team believe youre fairly useless. Are you?The solution is easy here- put your best effort into everything you do. No, you dont have to go above and beyond all the time. But you should make sure you fulfill all of your responsibilities- and that you do it well. 6. The Know-it-AllWise words from my dad Just because youre smart doesnt mean you always need to be talking. And its true. Yes, you shouldnt hide the truth from your co-workers. If theyre going down a completely incorrect path and headed for disaster, you should steer them in the right direction if you can.But, you dont need to say something just to prove someone wrong or to show off how brilliant you are. Ask yourself Is what Im about to say relevant to the conversation? Does it help anyone, or does it just show off my completely unrelated knack for computing difficult calculus problems in my head? Telling everyone every single thing you know doesnt make them like you. It doesnt make them think youre the next Einstein. It makes them think youre really freaking annoying. 7. The Self-ServerSpeaking of hiding the truth from your colleagues, this is totally something the self-server would do. Instead of lending a hand, you keep valuable information to yourself and only share it when it can make you look good (i.e., in front of your boss or the CEO of the company). Other things the self-server do es? Takes credit for others work, throws people under the bus, and goes above and beyond to knock his projects out of the park but declines to help others (just to name a few slimy traits). Eliminate your ego from the game and learn how to do whats not only best for you, but for your team and the company as well. Climbing on top of others to ascend up the ladder may work well in the short-term, but when you come crashing down later, no one will be there to help you up. 8. Negative nanzig (or Ned)Negative Nancy types are the exact opposite of the people who try to find the silver lining in everything. Instead, they make sure everyone knows whats wrong with every single situation. Every. Single. One.Before you open your mouth, answer this Does this feedback provide any sort of value? Or is it just me whining again? Even if you do decide that it needs to be said, try to keep any adverse feelings out of it. Heres an example of what a Negative Nancy could say, The way the product team de signed this is complete crap, as per usual. Basically, just insulting the product folks and adding no suggestions to rectify the problem. Nice.Instead, one should say Ive noticed these design aspects make it a little tricky to accomplish our goal. Do you think we could discuss this with the product team to see if theres a way we can work together to improve it?Its really hard to look at yourself objectively- most times, you wont even notice that the habits you formed are causing others to throw darts at your photo. And, I repeat In most situations, I dont think you should give a second thought to what others think or say about you.But at work, a bad reputation can severely hinder your career success and movement forward. And, the truth is, if youve gained a reputation, its likely because its not just a one-time thing. Rather than panic that youve ruined everything forever, instead take a look at your behavior and start working hard to change it. Youll be the most beloved person in t he office in no time. Or, at least, more beloved than you were before.